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New Family Dynamics and How to Reduce Stress as a Family Caregiver

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The first moment Janet took on a new role as a family caregiver for her aging mother, the dynamics within the family actually changed. She had three siblings, two older sisters and a youngerFamily Caregiver Tips in North Palm Beach FL brother, and even though they didn’t live all that far away from their mother, none of them really stepped up to offer assistance.

Janet had never been considered extremely close with her mother, but she did love her and wanted her to be safe and have the best opportunities to stay healthy and active. When she noticed nobody else was offering much assistance, she took it upon herself to provide care for her mother at home.

Within a few weeks, Janet noticed something changing in the family dynamics. Her older sister, with whom she had shared a close relationship throughout most of her adult life, seemed to be calling her less frequently. She began to hear things from her brother and other sister that her closer sister had been saying behind her back.

She began to develop a sense that her siblings were not happy with her caring for their mother. It wasn’t that they had issues with their mother, but they didn’t trust her motives. They believed Janet was angling for monetary compensation, either in the will, alone, or something else.

It was difficult enough providing care for her mother at home and she felt an incredible amount of stress as her mother required more and more assistance as the months progressed, and this made things worse.  This was a new dynamic in her family relationship and she didn’t know how to deal with it in a healthy manner.

For Janet and other family caregivers like her, it can certainly be a difficult prospect when caring for an elderly loved one, such as a parent. Even though you want what’s best for her, you may have to deal with various repercussions, jealousy, envy, or outright suspicion.

Janet finally decided that the stress she was feeling and the pressure she was under as a result of this new family dynamic wasn’t worth it. A coworker told her she should consider hiring a professional home care provider from an agency, at least to help out a couple of days a week. That’s exactly what she did.

Within the first week she felt the stress evaporating from her life. She knew that things would take a long time to go back to normal with her family and siblings, but she wished she had realized the benefits of a professional and independent caregiver before.

If you would like more information about how Family Private Care can help you and your family with home care services near North Palm Beach, FL, call us at  800-962-0884.


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Deborah Irvine

Deborah Irvine and her husband reside in Martin County Florida. She has been married for 30 years and is the mother of two daughters. Deborah completed her nursing degree at Palm Beach Community College in 1986 and is a Registered Nurse. She also has a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Religious Studies from Hobe Sound Bible College. Deborah worked for 9 years at Martin Memorial Hospital as a Medical/Surgical Nurse and then went into Home Health care, working for two years at a Medicare Home Health company. In 1997 Deborah went to work at Family Private Care where she started as an Independent Contractor nurse, and was soon promoted to the Director of Nursing, then became their General Manager and currently serves as Family Private Care’s President.

Deborah is a member of the Private Care Association and thereby stays involved in the political process both state-wide and national as it pertains to Nurse Registries and home care issues.

Deborah was appointed by the Commissioners of Martin County in 2005 to the board of the Treasure Coast Health Care Council where she served two terms.

Deborah has been committed to the Martin County community by serving in various roles through her church from being involved with children’s ministry through a Bus Ministry program in Indiantown to serving as a Sunday School teacher to Junior High children. Deborah continues to work with and actively supports a myriad of local community organizations.