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Losing a Loved One Again: When a Senior with Alzheimer’s Thinks Their Spouse Is Still Alive

Alzheimer’s Care in Spring Hill FL

The rain pattered against the glass. It started out as a light drizzle that eventually grew into a hard, driving downpour. The thunder rolled in the distance. Storms like this were not all that common in the area, and Paul woke up confused.

Dealing with Alzheimer’s, Paul had a number of moments when he knew he should remember something, but couldn’t. This morning, though, he crawled out of bed, washed up in the bathroom, and then made his way down the hall. He was confused again.

This confusion was different.

Alzheimer's Care in Spring Hill FLHe looked in the kitchen, made his way to living room, and even called down into the basement where the washer and dryer had once been. “Ellen,” he called out to no response.

He managed to make his way toward the garage, opened the door and seeing nothing but empty spaces where two cars had once been, many years ago, he assumed his wife was out. Maybe she had gone to the mall, he thought. Maybe she went to the grocery store. Maybe she went to pick their daughter up from school.

What Paul didn’t realize at that moment was his wife had passed away more than five years ago.

His daughter, full grown, married, and having grown children of her own, stopped by in the afternoon to check in on him. He told her immediately how worried she was about his wife.

His daughter had a difficult situation to face: should she tell him the truth or hope he’d either forget this situation or realize on his own what year is was and that he was alone?

This is often a difficult situation for many families to deal with. Where do you draw the line? Do you really want to break someone’s heart all over again? Paul’s daughter wondered if he would go through another tough grieving process. It was difficult enough on him the first time he lost her; she couldn’t imagine him having to do this all over again.

In this particular situation, Paul’s daughter decided to go along with the delusion, informed him that she had gone to visit with a friend who was sick, and that she would be back by the next day.

When Paul finally went to sleep, still nervous and agitated, he had a restless night’s sleep, but woke up the next morning fully aware that his wife was no longer there and completely unaware of the concerns and confusion he had the previous day.

That’s not always the case, which is why it’s so important to consider experienced home care support when someone is dealing with Alzheimer’s. Experienced caregivers often know the best way to deal with these challenging and potentially heartbreaking situations.

The staff at Acti-Kare Responsive In-Home Care is available to talk with you and your family about all of your needs. Acti-Kare Responsive In-Home Care provides quality and affordable Alzheimer’s care in Spring Hill, FL and the surrounding areas. Call (352) 289-0450 for more information.

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TJ Hedick

TJ Hedick is the owner and director of "Acti-Kare Responsive In-Home Care" located on Florida's Nature coast. With a family lineage that stretches out over four generations here in Hernando County, TJ is extremely passionate about his local community with an emphasis on the senior population."I don't know, maybe it was the way I was raised, but I have so much admiration and respect for seniors in our community." Hedick said. Only leaving the area briefly to study business management and marketing Hedick later returned home to the business community. He added, "I always knew I would find a way to enrich peoples lives and that this would be my calling. I started to focus in on the senior community and decided that the people I would serve through my business endeavors would be the same senior community that taught me so much and instilled such great values in me throughout my youth." Hedick opened Acti-Kare as a way to give seniors the help and care they needed to remain independent and safe in their own homes as long as possible. Another cause close to his heart is the pursuit of a cure for Alzheimer's and dementia, and until there is a cure the proper care for those who suffer from this disease. "Dementia has affected my family and a very personal way." He continued. Through his company, Acti-Kare, and his personal efforts, Hedick looks forward to be major contributor for senior causes for years to come.

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