For the last several months or maybe a couple of years you have been helping your father. In his 70s he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Maybe you and the rest of your family were not completely stunned by this because you noticed memory loss beginning to affect daily life.
Still, it took some time to adjust.
He was living alone and didn’t have a great support system around him. You left your own job to take care of him full-time. In the beginning, things seemed relatively simple. He only needed a few reminders and a little bit of help to go shopping, take care of the house, and run a few other errands.
As the months have now rolled into years you’ve been noticing a significant increase in his demands. He is having trouble getting out of bed. He is having more difficulty remembering things. He’s getting anxious and frustrated easily.
He may even be exhibiting some aggressive tendencies, including verbal and possibly physical aggression. While this can be attributed to Sundowner’s syndrome, it is most likely the direct result of memory loss that causes confusion, anxiety, and stress for him.
How much more can you do?
You’ve noticed the disease progressing. You’ve been able to spot certain issues coming to the surface that you had heard about, though hadn’t experienced directly. It’s causing an increased level of stress for you, creating tension in your relationship with him, and you realize now this might not be something you can continue doing for very long.
What can you do?
Talk about home care options. As the disease progresses he is going to require more and more assistance. At some point in time he may even need a visiting nurse or other medical professional to help him with certain things around the house or throughout the day.
If you are not equipped to handle this increased demand on his part, you need to talk to him openly and honestly about the prospect of relying on home care support services. An experienced aide is a far more affordable option than other elderly care provisions, and while he is still lucid he should be able to decide what happens in his future.
It’s easy to want to be there for your loved ones, but when their needs are beyond what you are capable of offering, be honest with yourself, with the senior, other family members, and seriously consider home care support services.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Alzheimer’s care in Jupiter, FL, please call the caring staff at Activa Home Health Care at (561) 819-4112. Serving Delray Beach, Boca Raton, Boynton Beach, Wellington, Jupiter, West Palm Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Lauderhill, Coral Springs, Pompano Beach and surrounding communities.
“I am passionate about our community and the people we serve”, states Mr. Fedele. “We have an obligation to take care of our seniors and allow them the dignity to age safely and independently in their own homes”.
Jon is married and has three children. He enjoys waterskiing and spending time with his family and friends.
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