John, Rachel, and Tyler were all close. As siblings only separated by three years, they grew up together, played together, competed against one another, and dealt with many of the same sibling challenges that other brothers and sisters all around the world face every year. As adults, they were a close-knit family and live relatively close to their parents. One of the most difficult things they had to deal with was seeing their mother and father get older.
They all noticed the challenges.
Every single one of these siblings observed the same things when they visited with their mother and father. They noticed how frail they seemed, how slow they were to get up, how ginger their steps were walking down the hall. They talked amongst themselves about what could be done and because most of them lived right down the road, in the same town, as their parents, they felt it was their responsibility. They felt it was their duty to take care of them. They didn’t think much about home care options at the time.
Their effort to support these parents was more focused on the negative aspects of their struggles.
“Dad,” Rachel said one afternoon when she stopped by to help them, “you’re going to get hurt. Why do you keep doing this stuff? Don’t you get it?”
John and Tyler also said many similar things when they would stop by to support them. While these comments seem relatively tame, at least in comparison to how other people may have said them, they are negative in their construct. They are focused on the negative things, such as getting hurt, not doing things, or “not being stupid” about their daily routine.
When negativity is the language used, it’s going to create a negative environment. Eventually, their parents tried to keep John, Rachel, and Tyler at bay. They didn’t want them stopping by every day. It was frustrating enough to deal with the challenges of everyday life now in their 80s, but they certainly didn’t need constant negativity surrounding them.
October is Positive Attitude Month, and if John, Rachel, and Tyler had instead focused on the positives, such as how they support one another, the various activities their parents might still want to do, and encouraged them to continue living life to the fullest, that would have been a great benefit.
Experienced home care aides understand the value in staying positive and helping to encourage one another rather than focusing on what’s wrong or what they shouldn’t be doing.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for seniors in Brandon, FL, contact the caring staff at Family Private Care. Call today (855) 465-0611.
Deborah is a member of the Private Care Association and thereby stays involved in the political process both state-wide and national as it pertains to Nurse Registries and home care issues.
Deborah was appointed by the Commissioners of Martin County in 2005 to the board of the Treasure Coast Health Care Council where she served two terms.
Deborah has been committed to the Martin County community by serving in various roles through her church from being involved with children’s ministry through a Bus Ministry program in Indiantown to serving as a Sunday School teacher to Junior High children. Deborah continues to work with and actively supports a myriad of local community organizations.
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