You’re getting frustrated. It’s actually getting annoying. You keep helping this aging senior in your life, providing them some support, going shopping for them, taking them to doctors’ appointments, and so on, but yet they refuse to even listen about home care options.
You know this is the best thing for them.
You’re quite clear that they need help. Even they would readily admit they need help on a regular basis. Where you differ, though, is they assume you can just do this because you live right down the street from them. Sure, they take into account you have a full-time job and other responsibilities, but how much time are you really devoting to them?
It’s easy to dramatically underestimate the support somebody offers.
When receiving assistance from somebody else, many of us will certainly be appreciative, but we may also underestimate just how much time they devote to us. When an elderly person is refusing to even consider home care options, it can feel exhausting. You suddenly start to think you have no recourse, no other options available to you.
Remember, it is still their choice.
The choice to rely on home care or not still remains with them. It’s not up to you. Yes, an elderly person may very well have extremely limited mobility and a number of other challenges, but if they are refusing to hire or even talk about a home care aide, it is ultimately their decision.
What if safety is the major concern here?
If you’re concerned about their safety, talk to them about specifics. Talk about incidences you’ve observed, accidents that resulted in injuries, or other episodes you know play a factor in their safety. It’s easy to overlook these things, especially if you don’t really want to admit you’re struggling. However, when you’re faced with specific examples of these problems and challenges, there’s really no way to hide from them.
Finally, think about other ways to bring up the topic.
You might be able to do this with a number of other family or friends at a nice dinner. You can talk about it in a roundabout way. You might even be able to get them to at least hear you out by discussing things they have given up, but that they may still be able to do, with some physical assistance you are simply not able to provide because of your schedule.
These are just a few ways to help people understand the benefits home care options provide.
If you or a family member are in need of home care for seniors in Tamarac, FL, call the caring professionals at Star Multi Care today at (954) 870-4770. Providing service in Boca Raton, West Palm Beach, Delray Beach, Boynton Beach, Weston, Southwest Ranches, Pembroke Pines, Cooper City, Lighthouse Point, and Wilton Manors.
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.